Recently on my instagram I have spoken about why it is important to ask ourselves what do we really want. This was one of my biggest lessons that I took away from working with a therapist. For so long I was chasing a vision of me, that wasn't really me. I did what I thought was expected of me. I have internalised those thoughts and accepted them as fully mine. But they weren't. Those were external thoughts (or conditioning) that I have picked up along the way - from family, school, TV, society...
I am almost embarrassed to say that I never thought about asking myself, what is it that I want to focus on. Every idea that I had, I felt that I had to turn it into something bigger. It is so much pressure! No wonder for a long time I existed in a cycle of burnouts. I kept pushing myself to achieve what I deep down didn't really want, so eventually the steam would run out and I would feel betrayed. I would blame myself and be very mean about myself.
And I know I am not alone in this. We have these conversations with my clients during coaching sessions and I love to see how they perspective changes. With small shifts like that, giving ourselves space and freedom, eventually comes life-changing transformation. So I am inviting you to ask yourself more often, what is it that your really want?
